Comments for Hello Grief

Comment on Poll Result: My Favorite Way to Stay Connected to Loved Ones I’ve Lost Is… by Pat

Pat — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 03:20:44 +0000

I stay connected with my son by continuing to celebrate his birhtday by cooking his favorite meal and fininshing it off with his favorite cake. I still buy him a christmas ornament every year and honor him in other family celebrations. New Years we visited the cemetary at 12:00 his brothers did burn outs at his grave in his car along with friends lighting fire works. The time I spend honoring him during these difficult times helps me to keep him present in my life. I am not sure how long I will get away with it and have the added support I have been so fortunate to have but one thing is certain, for me it is much easier to acknowlege and honor him than it is to let him become just another person lost from my past. Out of site out of mind will never apply in this scenario. my son is also in my prayers, thoughts and heart every day. I dont know when but one thing I am sure of is we will be together again and when that happens it will be for eternity.

Comment on Tainted by Grief?… by Doreen Brooks

Doreen Brooks — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 00:41:35 +0000

Your daughter sounds like a special young lady so kind to know the loss her cousins feel. When I was young my best friend lost her mom from a heart attack when she was 4 and I was 5. From then on I shared my mom with her and we were forever “blood sisters”, we even mixed our blood to seal this. Then 10 years later we lost my mom to breast cancer. The loss was unimaginable. Because of what happened to her mom it was something I always worried could happen to me, then did. I thank God my mom had a treasured childhood friend who became for me the only person I could accept as a mother figure. The loss never goes from us. It has been 35 years now since she’s been gone. I think of her often and feel such a sadness at how much of my life she was not able to be part of. Having a daughter of my own has filled much of the emptiness. Losing a mom is such a life defining event, I treasure the memories I have of my mom but just wish we had more time together. Doreen

Comment on Physical and Emotional Responses to Grief by Tanya

Tanya — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 20:36:44 +0000

I lost my dad May 2003 and then my husband Feb 2005 my best friend 10 days later and father in law April 2005. All to sudden illness. It was a terrible season of grief for me and my two children. We went through a lot of counseling so with that help and our strong faith in God we got through. My youngest son had to deal with suicide attempts for a couple of years but he is doing much better. He stil misses dad and the grandpas & so do I, we talk of them often. Gone but not forgotten.

Comment on 7 Ways Grief Has Changed Me by Tina Carrion

Tina Carrion — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 19:21:14 +0000

Thanks so much for sharing the 7 ways you’ve been changed by the loss of your son. It was like reading about myself! I lost my 16 year old daughter in February of 2008… It shattered me to my very core. And so many cannot possibly understand what I have gone through, and continue to struggle with on a daily basis.

I am so sorry for your loss, although I know from experience that nobody will ever be more sorry than you.

Peace to you and your family.
Tina

Comment on How to Ruin a Dinner Party by Deborah

Deborah — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 15:02:45 +0000

When people ask me if I spent time with my family over the holidays, I politely say that we were with my husband’s family. When they push and ask if my parents don’t live nearby because I didn’t see them, I explain that my Mother passed away unexpectely five years ago and that my Dad passed away ony months later. The next comment usually is something like this “oh, your Father couldn’t live without your Mother, so he died too.” I respond something like this – “Actually no, he begged me to move him to another hospital to look for a miracle because he didn’t want to die. I had to be the one to tell him that there were no more miracles for him and that it was OK for him to go. I will never forget the look on his face when I told him that.” This usually ends the conversation.

Comment on Teens’ Talk about Parents Dating Again by scare them away

scare them away — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 12:34:44 +0000

if he really likes your mom he wud buy u watever u wanted to keep you happy because he loves yourmom and if he dont do that then he just uses yo mom for sex

Comment on How to Ruin a Dinner Party by Claudia Hall Christian

Claudia Hall Christian — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 22:48:19 +0000

I got this when I was wedding dress shopping – “Where’s your mother?” the stupid salesperson would ask.
“Dead?” I’d respond.

They never returned to help me. Jerks

I’d like to say this would/could change but it seems like we face to face talk to people so rarely now – when would we learn the skill?

Comment on Benefits of Grief Support Groups by AngelaDivino

AngelaDivino — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 18:22:07 +0000

My teenage son died of cancer Oct 2011 need alot of support cannot sleep at not but in the day i good but i night i m restless keep hearing his voice i need support to get over the pain. I WISH I COULD SAVE HIM

Comment on Seven Years Later by Laura

Laura — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 15:26:07 +0000

I was fortunate to have had my dad until I was 30. I always knew because of his heart condition we were living on borrowed time but it hurts just the same. He died in 2008 and it still hurts. I was a daddy’s girl and that bond will make me miss him forever. I still have days where I burst into tears when I think about him being gone. I would do anything to pick up the phone and just talk to him. You are right it gets better but it never goes away.

Comment on Grief is… by melody force

melody force — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 08:02:15 +0000

I miss my husband I am so sad. ihave no friends. Ron’s wife Melody