Comments for Hello Grief http://www.hellogrief.org A place to learn and share about grief and loss Sun, 05 Sep 2010 20:47:27 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 Comment on Vacationing with your Memory by Alisha http://www.hellogrief.org/vacationing-with-your-memory/comment-page-1/#comment-2201 Alisha Sun, 05 Sep 2010 20:47:27 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=1514#comment-2201 My mom loved vacations, almost more than you can imagine. She especially loved floating on her back in the pool or in the ocean. We always joked about how easily she floated, and how easily I sank. My husband and I just got back from an amazing vacation, in a beautiful country that Mom never had a chance to visit. I spent a lot of time floating on my back, concentrating hard so I wouldn't sink, and silently whispering vacation memories to mom. Thanks once again, for sharing something that is so personal to you. Your willingness to let me (and all of us) be a part of these moments is what makes this community so very special. My mom loved vacations, almost more than you can imagine. She especially loved floating on her back in the pool or in the ocean. We always joked about how easily she floated, and how easily I sank. My husband and I just got back from an amazing vacation, in a beautiful country that Mom never had a chance to visit. I spent a lot of time floating on my back, concentrating hard so I wouldn’t sink, and silently whispering vacation memories to mom.

Thanks once again, for sharing something that is so personal to you. Your willingness to let me (and all of us) be a part of these moments is what makes this community so very special.

]]> Comment on How to Ruin a Dinner Party by Kimberly http://www.hellogrief.org/how-to-ruin-a-dinner-party/comment-page-1/#comment-2200 Kimberly Sat, 04 Sep 2010 16:27:19 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=1257#comment-2200 Yep - been there, done that. Depending on my mood I often help the person out & change the subject, but you gotta wonder about the people who don't hear the past tense/hints & just keep asking..... "What does your husband do?". "Actually, he passed away a few months ago." Correct response: "I'm sorry to hear that." and changing subject. Instead, it's often: "How". "He committed suicide." That usually brings any conversation (and all surrounding conversations) to a screeching halt. But it's the unfortunate truth. Yep – been there, done that. Depending on my mood I often help the person out & change the subject, but you gotta wonder about the people who don’t hear the past tense/hints & just keep asking…..
“What does your husband do?”.
“Actually, he passed away a few months ago.”
Correct response: “I’m sorry to hear that.” and changing subject.
Instead, it’s often: “How”.
“He committed suicide.”
That usually brings any conversation (and all surrounding conversations) to a screeching halt. But it’s the unfortunate truth.

]]> Comment on Holding Your Own in the Court of Public Opinion by Catherine http://www.hellogrief.org/holding-your-own-in-the-court-of-public-opinion/comment-page-1/#comment-2199 Catherine Sat, 04 Sep 2010 02:21:06 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=1510#comment-2199 Ann-- I loved your comment. You're right...this article isn't just about change through grief, but accepting ourselves for who we are and letting go of the idea that we need the approval of others. It sounds like you are starting on an exciting time in your life. Congratulations on discovering your passion and going for it! It's what most people dream of doing. Best of luck to you on your journey of self-discovery. It sounds like you're off to a great start!! Ann–

I loved your comment. You’re right…this article isn’t just about change through grief, but accepting ourselves for who we are and letting go of the idea that we need the approval of others. It sounds like you are starting on an exciting time in your life. Congratulations on discovering your passion and going for it! It’s what most people dream of doing.

Best of luck to you on your journey of self-discovery. It sounds like you’re off to a great start!!

]]> Comment on Holding Your Own in the Court of Public Opinion by Ann http://www.hellogrief.org/holding-your-own-in-the-court-of-public-opinion/comment-page-1/#comment-2198 Ann Thu, 02 Sep 2010 18:31:42 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=1510#comment-2198 I found this site because I was dating a widower with a son who I was trying to connect with. Well, we have parted ways in large part, I beleive, because the man was not ready to accept me for myself, instead of a replacement of his beloved wife. However, Hello Grief, and in particular this article has addressed many issues of my own Grief for the 'loss' of my mom to Alzheimer's 10 years ago, and the loss of my marriage to divorce three years ago. I am at an interesting junction where my old frienships have all but evaporated, my two brothers contact me only on holidays, and launching into my passion (painting) has cause me much self reflection that has caught me off guard. I think really good things lay ahead, it takes time and if it not for new gleaming support framework available like this one, well... I would be very lonesome waiting out my own time to settle elsewhere and start anew. Thanks so much. I found this site because I was dating a widower with a son who I was trying to connect with. Well, we have parted ways in large part, I beleive, because the man was not ready to accept me for myself, instead of a replacement of his beloved wife.
However, Hello Grief, and in particular this article has addressed many issues of my own Grief for the ‘loss’ of my mom to Alzheimer’s 10 years ago, and the loss of my marriage to divorce three years ago. I am at an interesting junction where my old frienships have all but evaporated, my two brothers contact me only on holidays, and launching into my passion (painting) has cause me much self reflection that has caught me off guard. I think really good things lay ahead, it takes time and if it not for new gleaming support framework available like this one, well… I would be very lonesome waiting out my own time to settle elsewhere and start anew. Thanks so much.

]]> Comment on Poll Result: My Loss Changed Me… by Sofy http://www.hellogrief.org/poll-result-my-loss-changed-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2197 Sofy Thu, 02 Sep 2010 18:17:29 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=1539#comment-2197 So, what are those ways that people couldn't describe in terms of what was presented in the poll options? I'm curious to know about the potential effects of a loss. I, myself, became more tough, though my loss made me a rough-numb body and soul creature for a period of time. I don't think any other accident will hurt me the same, again. So, what are those ways that people couldn’t describe in terms of what was presented in the poll options? I’m curious to know about the potential effects of a loss.
I, myself, became more tough, though my loss made me a rough-numb body and soul creature for a period of time. I don’t think any other accident will hurt me the same, again.

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