Father’s Day 2014

Earlier this week we asked on Facebook and Twitter for your memories of your dads as Father’s Day approaches.

Here’s a look at some of the responses. Please leave your special memories in the comments!

From Pam S., via email:
The other day, as I was finally getting around to cleaning out our spare bedroom, I came across a Father’s Day card that I had bought for my son to give my dad in 2012. Back then, being the scatterbrain that I am, I had misplaced this card. I quickly bought my dad another one, and figured that my son could give this one to his grandpa next year.

I didn’t give saving it for another year a second thought. My father’s death was very sudden and unexpected. In the past 19 months, I’ve naturally moved past the initial grieving and shock, but there is an empty space inside of me that may never totally go away. It’s a strange new reality.

My dad was a wonderful, loving grandfather. Throughout the first 18 months of my son’s life, my dad never stopped raving about him, and telling me what a great mother I was.

After my father died, one of the things going through my head was that my son would never have any memories of him. It completely broke my heart. He would never know the man who couldn’t wait to stick his hands inside his incubator. He wouldn’t remember the man that held him as he received his Jewish name. He wouldn’t get to spend any more time with his only grandfather, who could never stop talking about his third grandchild to anyone he met.

It’s a remarkable thing, though. My son is 3 now, and does know who “Papa” is. Right after he died, I put his pictures all over our house, and my son and I talk about him all the time. I doubt he actually remembers him, but he knows who the smiling face is in all the pictures, and he knows that “Papa lived at Grandma’s house.”

On Father’s Day this year, I’m going to remember all the good times we had together. I’m going to remember how proud he was of me, and how thrilled he was to help my husband and I buy our first house. I’m going to remember joking and laughing with him, and especially the Desperate Housewives series finale party we had at my house! We loved discussing that show together!

I’m going to remember enjoying good wine with him, and how he taught me how to pick the right bottle. I will remember how much he loved to golf and watch hockey, and how the theme song for Hockey Night in Canada always played on the TV in our house every Saturday night during hockey season.

I’ll remember how much fun I had when he would take me out of dinner and then to a Toronto Maple Leafs game. I’m going to remember how generous he was with my sister and me, and then with our husbands, as well. I’m going to remember the last time I saw him, three days before he died. He stopped in during a Halloween party I was having for my son and his little friends. I will remember that he was with my mom, me, my sister and all three of his grandchildren. It was the last time we would all be together and see him alive, hear his voice and hug him.

I miss my father so very much. 19 months have gone by since he’s been gone, and I still have days where my heart feels like it’s breaking. I hope as the years go by, Father’s Day will start to be a special day again, and not a painful one that I dread.

From Joy G.
Hello Dad. You are a wonderful father, grandpa and man. Miss you every day and think about you in the oddest moments, (like eating celery the other day!) Thank you for all you gave me and for making me who I am today. I love you!!

From Maria C.
Not one day goes by that I don’t miss my dad. He was a great man, father and a wonderful grandfather. I guess him being missed so much is living proof he was a great dad. I was blessed and am grateful so many people have very little good memories of their father even while living.

This Father’s Day will be the first without him. We would always spend the day with him. That was all he wanted for his children and grandchildren to be with him that day, no gifts – just the gift of having us there. Our neighborhood ice cream man knew there would be kids there and drive by every father’s day because grandpa would be out there waiting, buying an ice cream for everyone on his day. We will miss him this year tremendously.

From Carley S.
Taking rides on the motorcycle, coming home from a baseball game or a cheerleading competition and my dad had shaved his head and he had long hair. Going fishing with him and always being his little helper when he would build things or fix things. I love and miss him very much!

From Cassie-Lee B.
Dancing in the living room with him and watching him do a dance we called the “Oklin” dance.

From Melissa S.
Going to New England Patriots summer practices, cheering the Red Sox on every year, swimming at Sebago Lake, driving over the bridge in our station wagon headed to Cape Cod, driving through the city showing me a glimpse of the days of his youth. You are missed Dad and I had so much more to ask. Love you!

From Melissa I.
He always had a knack for saying just the right thing to make me understand the whys of the world and how I was to make it through…and it never failed for him to reiterate over and over again that I was special and would accomplish great things. Just thinking about it brings tears to my eyes and makes my heart swell with love.

From GayLynn T.
From my daughter Juna: “When I was like ten feet away from my dad and he blew me a kiss, I could actually feel it on my cheek.”

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One Comment:

  1. Emily Russell said on September 6, 2014 at 8:07 am ... #

    I lost my Granddad just 3 days ago, it’s fathers day tomorrow. I have no idea how to approach my dad about it. He’s just accepting it I think, as my G’dad wasn’t well and hadn’t been for some time. But I think it’s still a raw feeling amongst the whole family. I don’t know how happy or sad I am going to be tomorrow, I am at the end of my 3rd pregnancy and have been rather emotional about it all. I hope I can find the words to wish him a happy dad’s day without reminding him of our recent loss. But I think that may be an impossible task. Miss you Granddad. XoX

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