Originally published May 10, 2010.
Teens at Comfort Zone Camp never cease to amaze me with the ways music and song saturate their lives; how they use it to express their feelings, hopes and fears related to the loss of a parent, sibling, grandparent, or close friend. CDs and i-pods are almost always in their backpacks.
They have taught me the power of music and song in navigating the grief journey. I confess, old fogy that I am, some of the music I cannot relate to. But it speaks to them, and I honor that.
If you are the parent of a grieving teen, be courageous and listen to what they are listening to. Do it without judgment. When you have a song or music that relates to your own grief journey, share it with them and tell them why. If a conversation develops, that’s great and if it doesn’t, that’s OK too. They will know you paused to enter their world.
Here are just a few songs that teens chose to play in my Healing Circle at camp a few years back when our theme was Music. I wrote the titles down so I could recall them and listen to them later. They have a playlist all their own on my i-pod along with a couple of my favorites; three of which are on this list. Note: this list was made a few years ago.
- “Grave Digger” –Dave Matthews
- “Time of Your Life” –Green Day
- “Six Feet from the Edge” –Creed
- “Broken” –Seether and Amy Lee
- “Holes in the Floor of Heaven” –Steve Wariner
- “I Can Only Imagine” –Mercy Me
- “Hear You Me: What Would You Think of Me Now?” –Jimmy Eat World
- “Butterfly Kisses” –Collin Raye
- “Dance with My Father Again” –Luther Vandross
- “Only Time” –Enya
- “Why” –Rascal Flats
- “You Raise Me Up” –Josh Groban
- “Something More” –Switchfoot
- “Welcome to My Life” –Simple Plan
- “Amazing Grace” –Judy Collins
- “Give Yourself to Love” –Kate Wolf
- “Suggestions for the Tailor” –Scott Pryor
- “You Listened to Me” –Steve Beta
Take time to listen. Some will make you cry, some will make you think, some will lift you up.
I also invite you to add to the list. What songs have you used to help in your grief journey? Maybe they remind you of your loved one, or have lyrics that give you hope. Please share in the comments below.