Music and Grief


Originally published May 10, 2010.

Teens at Comfort Zone Camp never cease to amaze me with the ways music and song saturate their lives;  how they use it to express their feelings, hopes and fears related to the loss of a parent, sibling, grandparent, or close friend. CDs and i-pods are almost always in their backpacks.

They have taught me the power of music and song in navigating the grief journey. I confess, old fogy that I am, some of the music I cannot relate to. But it speaks to them, and I honor that.

If you are the parent of a grieving teen, be courageous and listen to what they are listening to. Do it without judgment. When you have a song or music that relates to your own grief journey, share it with them and tell them why. If a conversation develops, that’s great and if it doesn’t, that’s OK too. They will know you paused to enter their world.

Here are just a few songs that teens chose to play in my Healing Circle at camp a few years back when our theme was Music. I wrote the titles down so I could recall them and listen to them later. They have a playlist all their own on my i-pod along with a couple of my favorites; three of which are on this list. Note: this list was made a few years ago.

  • “Grave Digger” –Dave Matthews
  • “Time of Your Life” –Green Day
  • “Six Feet from the Edge” –Creed
  • “Broken” –Seether and Amy Lee
  • “Holes in the Floor of Heaven” –Steve Wariner
  • “I Can Only Imagine” –Mercy Me
  • “Hear You Me: What Would You Think of Me Now?” –Jimmy Eat World
  • “Butterfly Kisses” –Collin Raye
  • “Dance with My Father Again” –Luther Vandross
  • “Only Time” –Enya
  • “Why” –Rascal Flats
  • “You Raise Me Up” –Josh Groban
  • “Something More” –Switchfoot
  • “Welcome to My Life” –Simple Plan
  • “Amazing Grace” –Judy Collins
  • “Give Yourself to Love” –Kate Wolf
  • “Suggestions for the Tailor” –Scott Pryor
  • “You Listened to Me” –Steve Beta

Take time to listen. Some will make you cry, some will make you think, some will lift you up.

I also invite you to add to the list. What songs have you used to help in your grief journey? Maybe they remind you of your loved one, or have lyrics that give you hope. Please share in the comments below.

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123 Comments:

  1. Kristi Silvia said on April 29, 2010 at 2:55 pm ... #

    the song that my daughter sang at my husband’s service was In Loving Memory, by Alter Bridge.. a really good song

  2. Carol Gordon said on April 29, 2010 at 3:37 pm ... #

    “The Riddle”–Five for Fighting…beautiful song/lyrics about the meaning of life.

  3. Lynda said on April 29, 2010 at 5:48 pm ... #

    Address In The Stars…. By Caitlin and Will …This is a wonderful song.

  4. Robert Morie said on April 29, 2010 at 7:19 pm ... #

    “Til I can gain control again”, by Willie Nelson, and many others.
    “Anthem” by Leonard Cohen

    I really enjoyed this article. As a 39 year old student of classical piano and voice, as well as somebody who lost their father at a young age, I can relate to this in a very personal way.
    More than songs I can sing along to, I myself have found some solace in great works by composers like Schumann & Mendelssohn. My instructor gives me pieces that are “felt” because she knows I can feel them.
    I would love to be able to pass that onto others. It’s a focused discipline, something that also has helped me.
    Thanks again for the wonderful article.

  5. Biil said on April 30, 2010 at 12:37 pm ... #

    Please post the composition and pass them on. It will be nice to have some classical items in the list. Check out comfortzonecamp.org -You may want to volunteer given your loss and experience.

  6. Laura O'Connor said on May 1, 2010 at 4:10 pm ... #

    If Tomorrow Never Comes…By: Garth Brooks

  7. katie said on May 2, 2010 at 2:25 pm ... #

    On The Radio- Regina Spektor
    “You laugh until you cry
    You cry until you laugh”

  8. william said on May 3, 2010 at 11:34 am ... #

    um yeah creed really touches me

  9. Alisha said on May 3, 2010 at 6:30 pm ... #

    Sarah Said by Death Cab for Cutie. (A really great band with an odd name.) This song talks about all of the awful and ugly things we went through while essentially waiting for Mom to die…and the amazing love it takes to do that, to be there for that process.

  10. Elizabeth said on May 4, 2010 at 1:38 am ... #

    My sister and I sang Billy Joel’s Lullabye (Goodnight, My Angel) at our father’s funeral.

  11. Brianna said on May 4, 2010 at 10:43 pm ... #

    One Sweet Day – Mariah Carey
    There You’ll be – Faith Hill
    The Prayer – Celine Dion & Josh Groban
    To where you are – Josh Groban
    I’ll be Missing you- P.Diddy
    Arms of the angel – Sarah McLauchlin
    I’ll Remember You- Sarah Mclauchlin
    Angel of Mine- Monica

    These all really helped me when my friend died=[
    RIP.<3

  12. Jon said on May 5, 2010 at 6:46 pm ... #

    “Against All Odds” by Phil Collins came out shortly after my mom died while I was in college (a looong time ago, I wonder how many folks reading this even know the song!). It’s not an uplifting song by any stretch, but certainly captured some of the anguish her sudden passing caused. When I hear it now, all these years later, I’m reminded of the fact that God did give me the grace and strength I needed to get though it, and that I had many wonderful friends that were there for me at the time.

  13. lee said on May 11, 2010 at 5:36 pm ... #

    i know alot of people dont like miley cyrus that much (me included) but the song “i miss you” by her actually made me cry

  14. Bruce said on May 21, 2010 at 3:13 am ... #

    My sister and I sang Billy Joel’s Lullabye (Goodnight, My Angel) at our father’s funeral.

  15. Gina said on June 16, 2010 at 12:17 pm ... #

    Cindy Bullens has some wonderful music that she recorded for a Documentary “Space Between Breaths” produced by Luther & Rosemary Smith (A film by Children of the Dome)
    Some of the songs that speak to me are: “Paper & Glass”, “In Better Hands”, Somewhere Between Heaven & Earth”, “I Gotta Believe in Something”, “Water On the Moon”, “As Long As You Love (Scarlet Wings)& “Better Than I’ve Ever Been”

  16. Avery Griffin said on July 14, 2010 at 7:03 pm ... #

    “Imagine”-John Lennon
    “Other Side”- David Grey
    “Hold on”- Sarah Mclaughin
    “Come Home”- One Republic
    “Mad World”- Adam Lambert, Gary Jules
    “Turpentine”- Brandi Carlile
    “Unmendable Heart”- Go to Youtube and search Andrew Siraco
    “Letters From The Sky”- Civil Twilight
    “Love is Stronger Than Death”- The The

  17. Sandi Diana said on July 15, 2010 at 7:22 pm ... #

    These are some of the ones that have helped me and came to mind right away. I will add another short listing as more come to me. I came here looking for some more to add to my list, and appreciate everyone taking the time to share the songs that have helped you heal.

    “Keep Me In Your Heart” – Warren Zevon
    “What a Wonderful World” – Louis Armstrong
    “Bridge Over Troubled Water” – Simon & Garfunkel
    “I Will Remember You” – Sarah McLachlan
    “I Can Only Imagine” – Mercy Me
    “Feeling Good” – Michael Buble (Nina Simone)

    “Christmas in Heaven” – Genuine Sun

  18. Joan said on December 9, 2010 at 9:40 am ... #

    Shine your light by robbie robertson
    follow you into the dark death cab for cutie
    someones watching over me hilary duff
    hurt christina aug

  19. zena said on December 16, 2010 at 6:21 pm ... #

    my fav songs without you-breaking benjamin, dear agony-breaking benjamin, waiting for the end-linkin park, numb-linkin, hurrican-thirty sec to mars, faith-a day to remember

  20. Melanie said on January 2, 2011 at 7:34 pm ... #

    1000 Oceans by Tori Amos

  21. madelyn said on March 10, 2011 at 8:31 pm ... #

    wake me up when september ends
    it has a good meaning billie wrote it when his dad dieb of cancer

  22. madelyn said on March 26, 2011 at 8:50 pm ... #

    Never Gonna B Alone by Nickelback

  23. bebi said on April 4, 2011 at 6:42 pm ... #

    I’ll be there by the Escape Club

  24. Carl Compton said on April 11, 2011 at 8:27 am ... #

    Monique Vieras – You Will Never Be Forgotten

    http://www.youtube.com/user/ComptonBrosStudio?feature=mhum#p/a/u/0/JvQRKwkaWCk

  25. Madison said on July 2, 2011 at 11:45 pm ... #

    I loved this article! Thank you so much!

  26. Grieving Guy said on August 18, 2011 at 2:41 pm ... #

    Regina Spektor – The Call
    Rob Thomas – Little Wonders
    PFR – Life Goes On

  27. Deb said on August 21, 2011 at 10:21 pm ... #

    Matthew West-Save a place for me

  28. Dan said on September 16, 2011 at 3:15 am ... #

    ozzy – see you on the other side
    lifehouse – broken & come back down
    Skid Row – I Remember You

    and when feeling low –
    The Summer Obsession – Disappear

  29. Anonymous3 said on September 24, 2011 at 10:10 am ... #

    Another couple of suggestions: Like You – Evanescence
    My Immortal – Evanescence

  30. Flavi said on October 6, 2011 at 12:09 am ... #

    For me it’s Hurt by Christina Aguilera. I lost my dad almost 9 years and and am still grieving. This song, I can’t explain it, it’s exactly how I feel.

  31. maddcap said on October 6, 2011 at 4:06 pm ... #

    for me it was;
    Reign over me by the who/pearl jam
    hurt by johnny cash
    more to life by switchfoot

    among others

  32. Ebalk said on October 12, 2011 at 4:50 pm ... #

    The song I’m going to play at my husbands memorial next week is called Your Long Journey, by Allison Krauss and Robert Plant. Listen to it, it’s beautiful.

  33. Lisa payne said on November 3, 2011 at 12:41 am ... #

    Lightning crashes by live reminds me of losing my mother and sister

  34. Lexi said on December 6, 2011 at 12:05 am ... #

    Somewhere Only We Know by Keane is a beautiful song that I listen to whenever I just want to sit back and let my emotions run wild.

  35. Brenna said on January 15, 2012 at 6:05 pm ... #

    I played Heaven by Andy Griggs at my husband’s service 7 months ago, it’s absolutely beautiful. Though to get through this, I Believe,
    by Diamond Rio says it all. I Still Love…. You by Trace Adkins is beautiful.

  36. Sarah said on January 27, 2012 at 10:19 pm ... #

    After my husband’s grandfather, my best friend (who I found out about on the 22nd anniversary of my dad’s death) and then my mentor all died in 2009, I found Home by Daughtry really comforting.

  37. m said on February 26, 2012 at 4:28 pm ... #

    I like “just breathe” by Pearl Jam http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xqNwlYazY5M ….this is the tribute I made using this music to my heart and soul, best friend, teacher, and guardian of 11 years Kaya

    for my girl Kaya and the other friends and family I have lost these songs have offered me emotional release and/or comfort ~ I hope they can help others as well

    other songs (that I havn’t seen mentioned already):

    “landslide” fleetwood mac

    “time after time” tracy chapman

    “heaven” by dj sammy and yanou (this is a really beautiful version)

    “release me” Pearl Jam

    “letters from heaven” cassendre xavier …the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gtNZtGGUNyo&feature=plcp&context=C3f90407UDOEgsToPDskJwUrnqtKVvLGilliKmLIrJ

  38. Emily said on February 27, 2012 at 10:59 pm ... #

    My grandpa just passed away not to long ago. He was my best friend and I was kinda angry when he died, so a song that I listened to that helped me was Over You by Miranda Lambert. It’s a good song and can help.

  39. Jessica said on March 5, 2012 at 8:43 am ... #

    There are two songs that I typically turn to when I have lost someone close to me. “Go Rest High” by Vince Gill and “Home Free” by Wayne Watson. And recently I found another song that I have been listening to which has helped me through the death of a friend and also a family member, “Blessings” by Laura Story.

  40. Joe said on March 14, 2012 at 3:23 pm ... #

    Almost 20 years ago I lost my brother to cancer. He was 22 years old. I have come to terms with the fact that I will grieve him until the end of my own time.
    The songs that somehow help me through the emotions are:
    I Grieve – Peter Gabriel
    Kite – U2
    One Headlight – The Wallflowers
    Light Years – Pearl Jam
    Wish You Were Here – Pink Floyd.

  41. Brittainy said on March 14, 2012 at 9:53 pm ... #

    Breaking Benjamin has many songs that helped me a lot when my mother died. I shared one specific example with a friend of mine when his father died.

    ‘I live for those I lost along the way’
    -breaking Benjamin, fade away

  42. Karen said on March 19, 2012 at 6:53 pm ... #

    I lost my father when I was 5 years old – coming up on the 39th anniversary of his death. Many songs have helped me over the years but one of the ones that stands out is Janet Jackson’s “Together Again”. This camp sounds wonderful…..there wasn’t anything like this when I was growing up. Would like to find out more about volunteering.

  43. Alyssea said on March 30, 2012 at 10:04 am ... #

    One week ago was the funeral of my grandfather… He was the person that took the responsability for me and my sister when our father left my mum. Together with my grandmother raised us up to their best abilities. I am so sad he left us now and I cannot accept not seeing him again. During these hard times, I also turned towards music. This is my list:
    R.E.M. – Everybody Hurts
    Coldplay – Fix You
    Judy Garland – Over The Rainbow
    Westlife – Flying Without Wings
    Westlife – You Raise Me Up
    Enya – If I Could Be Where You Are
    Enya – Only time
    Demis Roussos – Goodbye My Love Goodbye

    May everyone find the strength to pass these sad moments. RIP our loved ones (T_T)

  44. m said on April 1, 2012 at 12:55 pm ... #

    i wanted to add:
    “see the sun” by Dido

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y0BZKXmotbc

    lyrics:
    I’m coming round to open the blinds
    You can’t hide here any longer
    My god you need to rinse those puffy eyes
    You can’t lie still any longer
    And yes they’ll ask where you’ve been
    And you’ll have to tell them, again and again

    And you probably don’t want to hear tomorrow’s another day
    But I promise you you’ll see the sun again
    And you’re asking me why pain’s the only way to happiness
    And I promise you you’ll see the sun again

    Come on take my hand
    We’re going for a walk, I know you can
    You can wear anything, as long as it’s not black
    Please don’t mourn forever, she’s not coming back
    And yes they’ll ask where you’ve been
    And you’ll have to tell them again and again

    And you probably don’t want to hear tomorrow’s another day
    But I promise you you’ll see the sun again
    Abd you’re asking me why pain’s the only way to happiness
    And I promise you you’ll see the sun again
    And I promise you you’ll see the sun again

    Do you remember telling me you’d found the sweetest thing of all
    You said that one day of this was worth dying for
    So be thankful you kew her at all
    But it’s no more

    And you probably don’t want to hear tomorrow’s another day
    But I promise you you’ll see the sun again
    And you’re asking me why pains the only way to happiness
    And I promise you you’ll see the sun again
    And I promise you you’ll see the sun again

  45. Jen said on April 3, 2012 at 4:09 pm ... #

    Been dealing with a lot of raw, painful emotions recently due to an unplanned pregnancy that I was pressured into having terminated. Music has been my only form of ‘comfort’. The following songs are so close to my heart, I listen to them nearly every day..

    ‘Slide’ – Goo Goo Dolls
    ‘Iris’ – Goo Goo Dolls
    ‘Believe In Dreams’ – Flyleaf
    ‘Lucy’ – Skillet
    ‘A Moment Changes Everything’ – David Gray
    ‘Lately’ – David Gray
    ‘All At Once’ – Jack Johnson
    ‘Losing Keys’ – Jack Johnson
    ‘The Hardest Part’ – Coldplay
    ‘Little Girl Blue’ – Janis Joplin
    ‘Hear You Me’ – Jimmy Eat World
    ‘Ocean’ – Cold
    ‘Nothing Else Matters’ – Metallica
    ‘Waiting For The End (A Thousand Suns)’ – Linkin Park
    ‘Out Of This’ – Autamata

  46. Jen said on April 3, 2012 at 4:15 pm ... #

    ‘No Matter What’ – Papa Roach
    ‘Downfall’ – Trust Company

  47. Anonymous said on April 8, 2012 at 3:17 am ... #

    1. Time After Time – Cyndi Lauper and Sara
    McLachlin
    2. Ohh Child – Beth Orton
    3. Tears in Heaven – Eric Clapton
    4. Calling All Angels – Jane Siberry
    5. In My Life – Judy Collins

  48. Josh said on April 8, 2012 at 3:19 am ... #

    1. Time After Time – Cyndi Lauper and Sara
    McLachlan
    2. Ohh Child – Beth Orton
    3. Tears in Heaven – Eric Clapton
    4. Calling All Angels – Jane Siberry
    5. In My Life – Judy Collins

  49. Dan said on June 26, 2012 at 6:11 pm ... #

    This is a great topic. I’m so glad I found it. I love so many of the songs listed here. This will keep me busy on Spotify for awhile. Here are a couple more to add…

    “Moments of Pleasure” by Kate Bush
    “A Coral Room” by Kate Bush

  50. Dan said on June 26, 2012 at 7:27 pm ... #

    “Même si” by Les Rita Mitsouko

  51. Anonymous said on July 4, 2012 at 8:44 am ... #

    Bye-bye from Mariah Carey is good

  52. Thelma said on July 5, 2012 at 11:11 am ... #

    The heart of life by John Mayer helped me come to grips with my brother’s murder. That and Josh Groban’s you’re loved. Godsends those songs.

  53. Sam said on July 10, 2012 at 8:26 pm ... #

    Wish you were here by Pink Floyd

  54. am said on July 11, 2012 at 1:19 am ... #

    Here without you, 3 doors down

  55. Cody said on August 16, 2012 at 9:46 pm ... #

    So Far Away – Avenged Sevenfold
    This Is Your Song – Ronan Keating
    Vanilla Twilight – Owl City
    Forever And Always – Parachute
    Dear God – Avenged Sevenfold
    In Loving Memory – Alter Bridge

    These are the songs I listened to when my girlfriend passed away in December, they helped me through a lot.

  56. Anonymous said on August 17, 2012 at 7:31 pm ... #

    Top of the world – tom petty
    Ripple – grateful dead
    Box of rain- grateful dead

  57. Matt Scanlan said on August 21, 2012 at 3:04 am ... #

    Chopin’s Prelude #4 and also his Nocturne #20

  58. Lauren said on August 23, 2012 at 12:46 pm ... #

    This is an amazing compilation of songs and I appreciate everyone being there to help others. Hopefully this list will continue to give comfort to those that are feeling lost or disconnected.
    Thank you.

  59. Marija said on September 11, 2012 at 5:33 pm ... #

    Dream Theater – Through Her Eyes

  60. meparker said on September 13, 2012 at 10:23 pm ... #

    Still here by Jennifer Hudson. I lost my best friend last night and I have been listening to this song over and over and over again, and I cant stop crying. My best friend is gone but will never ever be forgotten. It is so hard to deal with this pain when the friend I lost is the person that would have been able to help me get through this. I have never felt so alone in my life.

  61. butterflylost said on October 3, 2012 at 11:16 am ... #

    Yellow by Coldplay is my brother and I’s song.
    Just Breathe-Pearl Jam
    Guaranteed-Pearl Jam
    The Reason-Hoobastank
    Here Without You-3 Doors Down
    Different Kind of Pain-Cold
    In Memory of-Silverstein
    Wish you were here-Incubus
    Follow you into the dark-Death Cab for Cutie

  62. emma said on October 13, 2012 at 1:01 pm ... #

    I’ll see you again by westlife really helped me when my nanna died, I’m only 15, 13 at the time, I was really close to her, this song helped a lot!

  63. ALC said on October 21, 2012 at 6:33 pm ... #

    “Jealous of the Angels”- Jenn Bostic
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pBg9btpGqKU

  64. Jada said on October 25, 2012 at 5:00 pm ... #

    My big brother committed suicide on Christmas Day of last year… these are the songs that got me through that. A friend of mine and I also sang a duet of Somewhere Only We Know by Keane to a group of his friends and I think it helped all of us.
    Hear You Me-Jimmy Eat World
    Here Without You- 3 Doors Down
    Stars and Boulevards- Augustana
    The Scientist- Coldplay
    Fix You- Coldplay
    I’ll Follow You Into The Dark- Death Cab for Cutie
    Never Let Me Go- Florence and the Machine
    Stay With You- The Goo Goo Dolls
    Still- Ben Folds
    Safe and Sound- Taylor Swift ft. The Civil Wars
    Turning Page- Sleeping At Last
    Worlds Apart- The Mostar Diving Club
    VCR- The xx
    Your Guardian Angel- The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus

    R.I.P. Dylan <3

  65. Colleen said on October 29, 2012 at 1:24 pm ... #

    Healing Begins by Tenth Avenue North

  66. Anonymous said on October 30, 2012 at 8:57 am ... #

    Colors-Amos Lee

  67. MacKenzie said on November 4, 2012 at 8:31 pm ... #

    I lost my little brother, my best friend three months ago in an accident. He was 14. Some songs that have been helpful are:

    Landing in London- 3 Doors Down
    This Ain’t Goodbye- Train
    Just Breathe- Pearl Jam
    When a Heart Breaks- Ben Rector
    Shadows by Westlife
    Tonight by FM Static (this one is so good)

    I’m so sorry for everyone’s losses. I will never understand why some people die young.
    I love you, Connor.

  68. Anonymous said on November 16, 2012 at 9:31 pm ... #

    My wife and I have used these and more at annual memorial candle lighting services

    With Hope – Stephen Curtis Chapman
    Dancing With The Angels – Monk & Neagle
    Say Goodnight – Beth Nielson Chapman
    It’s Going To Be Alright – Sara Groves
    For Good – Sandi Patty
    Show Me – Audrey Assad

  69. Breanna said on November 24, 2012 at 9:41 am ... #

    For parents who have lost a child:
    Playing with the Angels by Eric Anthony
    Precious Child by Karen Taylor Good

    For those who have had to say good-bye to someone much to young:
    Who You’d be Today by Kenny Chesney

  70. Kate said on December 3, 2012 at 12:00 am ... #

    Stars – Grace Potter &The Nocturns.

    Miss you buddy. Xo

  71. Anonymous said on December 7, 2012 at 1:18 am ... #

    In memory of-Silverstein
    Winter-Bayside
    Hear you me-Jimmy Eat World
    I will follow you into the dark-Death Cab for Cutie

    These songs have kept us going…

    We love you dude<3 it's not goodbye, it's see you later.

  72. Meagan O. said on December 19, 2012 at 4:43 am ... #

    “One More Day” by Diamond Rio.

  73. Missshim said on December 27, 2012 at 11:51 pm ... #

    Alone in this bed – framing Hanley
    Pieces – red
    My dad past away when I was eight I’ve been dancing for
    15 years these are the songs I danced to for my senior year
    Showcase.. They reminded me of him <3

  74. Tom G said on January 3, 2013 at 9:16 pm ... #

    For those who never got to say goodbye:
    “The Living Years – Mike and the Mechanics”

    This was no.1 in the UK the week i was born

  75. Bethany Venn said on February 8, 2013 at 5:38 pm ... #

    Bring on the wonder – Susan Enan, a song that’s helped me through a lot, a girl realises that she can’t see beauty anymore, and is finally ready to just go out there and find herself.
    Suicide Note – Johnette Napolitano. It’s devastating in how it truly conveys the emotions of watching someone fall apart and not being able to help.
    Lucy – Skillet. A necessity for me. A man remembers someone he lost and talks to her.
    Give me a sign – Gavin Mikhail. Originally done by Breaking Benjamin, but this cover just gives it that extra bit of emotion. Simply it’s about a guy falling apart, giving up, and feeling alone. And someone trying to save him.
    This woman’s work – Kate Bush. A woman losing her child, horribly soul touching.
    Self Conclusion – The Spill Canvas. Beautiful. Tells a story of girl who wants to take her life and is stopped. Makes you stop feeling so alone and the chorus is almost begging you to hold on.

  76. Liriel said on February 19, 2013 at 11:07 pm ... #

    And Jesus take the wheel by: Carrie underwood

  77. caitlin said on March 24, 2013 at 1:34 pm ... #

    The Offspring – Gone Away <3

  78. Daniel Villalobos-Terrazas said on April 17, 2013 at 10:23 pm ... #

    My mom died in a car accident a couple years ago. These songs make it better for me.

    You Were Just Here – Jo Dee Messina
    Save a Place for Me – Matthew West
    Homesick – Mercyme
    Can’t Be Really Gone – Tim McGraw

    Yo te extrañaré – Tercer Cielo
    Cuando te acuerdes de mí – Marco Antonio Solís
    Algún día – Tercer Cielo

  79. Anonymous said on May 2, 2013 at 6:55 pm ... #

    Thank you I finaly have found the song that I used to listen to that helped me when my son passed. God Bless you all.

  80. Sad said on May 3, 2013 at 5:41 pm ... #

    I came across this looking for more songs to listen to in my grief.
    Here is the list I had before looking here;
    Hold On – Michael Buble
    Brokedown Palace – Grateful Dead
    Black Muddy River – Grateful Dead
    If Not Now, When? – Incubus
    Good Riddance – Green Day

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  83. Dave H said on June 7, 2013 at 2:36 pm ... #

    When my Dad passed, I played this. This song still sticks with me in fond remembrance.

    “My Father’s Son” ~ Joshua Kadison.

    http://youtu.be/8hHJj5-lUwE

    “And after all’s been said and done
    And my battles for independence won
    I’m proud to say that I’m my father’s son”

  84. Sally Bradley said on June 26, 2013 at 6:22 pm ... #

    Have played this song often after losing my husband 4 months ago . “Jealous of the angels” by Jenn Bostic

  85. Janell Greenwood said on June 30, 2013 at 12:55 am ... #

    Thank you for the song suggestions. My sister passed away on May 31, 2013 and I am devastated. I wanted to make a playlist that would help me get through this painful loss. It is worst at night and I think about how she died so suddenly. Life is precious and we don’t know how much time we have. I wish she was still here.

  86. pipa said on July 3, 2013 at 2:36 am ... #

    Wishing you were somehow here – Sarah Brightman

  87. Leo said on July 8, 2013 at 6:30 pm ... #

    Falls apart by Hurt helped me cope with the death of a bestfriend… She died of a stroke back in Highschool… Winter by Joshua Radin and Hells song by Sum 41 are also good… Goodbye, travel well by the Killers another great song… Rest in piece to those we hold dear…

  88. Ron said on July 24, 2013 at 8:46 pm ... #

    2 years and 4 months since my mom passed and 2 weeks away from 3 years since dad passed,

    “Thanks again” by Ricky Skaggs helps me breathe.
    Thanks for the songs listed

  89. Abe said on August 1, 2013 at 2:24 pm ... #

    Officially missing you – Tamia
    Where is the Love? – Black Eyed Peas
    Over My Head(Cable Car) – The Fray
    How to Save a Life – The Fray
    No One – Alicia Keys
    Together Again – Janet Jackson
    Crossroads – Bone Thugs n Harmony
    Missing You – Aaliyah
    I Need You – LeAnn Rimes
    I Miss You – Blink 182
    Whered you Go – Fort Minor
    They Reminisce Over You – Pete Rock & CL Smooth
    Dance – Nas
    Don’t Worry Be Happy – Bobby McFerrin

    Hope this helps others feel better :)

  90. Julie said on August 6, 2013 at 10:29 am ... #

    I lost my husband 4 years ago. Music has helped me grieve.

    Probably wouldn’t be this way–Leann Rimes

    Sing for me
    See me smiling down
    View from Heaven All from Yellowcard

    Forever
    Here comes Goodbye Both by Rascal Flatts

    If I had only known–Reba McEntire

    You’re Gone–Diamond Rio

    Storm– Lifehouse

  91. Emily said on August 6, 2013 at 10:46 am ... #

    One song I’d add to the list is “Home Sick” by Mercy Me.

  92. Raegan said on August 6, 2013 at 11:01 am ... #

    Ray Lamontagne – “Hold you in my arms”

    Nat Cole- “Smile”

    Incubus – “I Miss You”

    Bruno Mars – ‘Talking to the Moon”

  93. Jimmy Yessian said on August 6, 2013 at 12:12 pm ... #

    “not a day goes by”
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=txmOZHNpAFc

  94. Jennifer said on August 6, 2013 at 2:35 pm ... #

    ‘Release’ and ‘Come Back’ both by Pearl Jam. Especially ‘Come Back’.

  95. Lynette said on August 6, 2013 at 3:33 pm ... #

    I lost my husband David 5 years ago. At his visitation and funeral, I played:

    Sand and Water by Beth Nielsen Chapman (Funeral)
    Love Reign o’er Me by The Who (Funeral)
    Shine Your Light by Robbie Robertson
    One Sweet Day by Mariah Carey
    One More Day by Diamond Rio (Funeral)
    Amazing Grace by The Dropkick Murphys (he LOVED bagpipes)
    Bless the Broken Road by Rascal Flatts
    Unanswered Prayers by Garth Brooks
    I Still Miss You by Keith Anderson
    If You Remember Me by Chris Thompson
    If I Had Only Known by Reba McIntyre
    Strong and Angels by Robbie Williams
    Gone So Young by Amber Pacific
    Sissy’s Song by Alan Jackson
    My Frist Night ALone Without You by Bonnie Raitt
    Miss You by Candlebox
    There’s a New Star Up In Heaven by Chris De Burgh
    Heaven was Needing A Hero by Jo Dee Messina
    To Where You Are by Josh Grobin

    Sending good thoughts out to everyone hurting and missing someone today!

    Lynette

  96. Kelly said on August 6, 2013 at 8:41 pm ... #

    Anything by Tenth Avenue North, especially their first album…when my mom passed away 4 years ago it had just come out, and some of their songs really helped me through the roughest time of my life. I recommend to ANYONE!!! :)

  97. Maggie said on August 7, 2013 at 6:43 am ... #

    On the Other Side – Vincent and Dailey
    See – Steven Curtis Chapman
    Our God is In Control- “

  98. Emma Fuller said on August 9, 2013 at 11:30 am ... #

    “Ride Out That Storm” by Betty jean Robertson

    “High On That Mountain” by Vince Gill

  99. Lisa said on August 12, 2013 at 5:00 pm ... #

    On the Other Side by Vincent & Dailey

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=556E2_S52i4

  100. Honestheart said on September 3, 2013 at 5:39 am ... #

    I just want to Thank You all for your suggestions. 4 weeks ago, on August 5, 2013, I lost my beloved husband suddenly as he suffered a massive heart attack from which they were not able to revive him. I heard him take his last breath as I desperately tried to save him while waiting on the paramedics. He was everything in my life, my best friend and my entire world. We were Owner/Operators in trucking & transportation, we worked together running our own business. We were together 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, months and months at a time. We took every breath together and he was every moment of my life. He was only 56 years young. I am so lost, there is no “normal” life for me to return to as we recently sold our home, placed our belongings in storage, and were in the process of relocating so my entire world has come to an end. I am staying with family and this is the first time I have shared my story. Thank you to all for allowing me to do so and for the music I shall now attempt to listen to.

  101. Kiera said on September 9, 2013 at 12:06 pm ... #

    I lost my mom to cancer one week ago today. It was a long, hard fought battle and although I knew it was coming no amount of preparation could have made me ready. She was only 53. Music has always been a big part of my life. At the funeral pn Friday I sang our lullabye she sang to my soblings and I and my nieces when we were babies. “Lover’s Lullabye” by Janis Ian and my niece played “think of me” from phantom of the opera, on the piano. We had a beautiful dove release during which we played “thank you” by led eplin.
    here are some other songs that are helping me deal.

    For Good – from the musical Wicked
    Through the Rain – Mariah Carey
    My shadow – Jessi J
    Wind beneath my wings – Bette Midler
    Beam me up – pink
    Que Sera Sera – Doris Day (this was stuck in my head when I woke up last Monday morning and its another one my mom would sing to me when I was little)
    Mama – spice girls
    Mama – the lonely island (sweet, funny and very wrong but very good, guaranteed to make you laugh)
    Music of my heart – *Nsync & Gloria estefan
    Some where, some day – Jennifer paige

  102. Brenda said on September 14, 2013 at 8:01 am ... #

    Here I am 2 yrs and 3 months since by wonderful husband passed away. I am still struggling through the saying time heals really isn’t true. Music really helps get me through. I heard a song I Will See You Again by Carrie Underwood that I wanted to share and it may help. Also Gary Allan’s Every Storm Runs Out of Rain.
    My thoughts and prayers are with all of you, I know how hard it is.

  103. Kaitie said on October 7, 2013 at 1:04 am ... #

    I’ve lost many people in my 17 years, luckily this year has been a break for me but last September I lost my Bestie who was there to help me get through all the previous deaths including my dad, uncle, a couple of other friends, grandparents, etc. As much as I love them their death wasn’t as hard on me then losing her. After I lost her all I had left was my adopted mom and sister. The only thing I had left to lift me out of my depression when I felt I couldnt go to them was music. The songs that helped get myself through her death were:
    Without You – Breaking Benjamin
    Keep Holding On – Avril Lavigne
    Wish You Were Here – Avril Lavigne
    Slipped Away – Avril Labigne
    Rise Above This – Seether
    The Fighter – Gym Class Heroes
    Stereo Hearts – Gym Class Heroes
    Hero of the Day – Metallica
    Calling All Angels – Train
    Little Talks – Of Monsters and Men
    Dead Memories – Slipknot
    I Miss You – Blink 182
    Bleeding Out – Imagine Dragons
    Demons – Imagine Dragons
    Fade – Egyptians
    Are You With Me Now – Sixx AM
    Inside The Fire – Disturbed
    Ghost of Days Gone By- Alter Bridge
    In Loving Memory – Alter Bridge
    One Headlight – The Wallflowers
    Gone Away – The Offspring
    Gary Allan – Every Storm (Runs Out of Rain)
    Gary Allan – Life Ain’t Always Beautiful
    Kill Your Heroes – AWOLnation
    Between The Raindrops – Lifehouse
    Never Let Me Go – Florence & the Machine
    Breath of Life – Florence and the Machine
    Hero – Skillet
    We Come Running – Youngblood Hawke
    Young Blood – Naked and Famous
    Scars – Papa Roach
    Lifeline – Papa Roach
    No Matter What – Papa Roach
    End of Me – Apocalyptica
    Not Strong Enough – Aplocalyptica
    The Crow and The Butterfly – Shindown
    Save Me – Shinedown
    I Dare You – Shinedow
    Diamond Eyes – Shinedown
    Windowpane – Savage Gypsy
    Some of these songs were personally our own songs.
    I love you Sammy!! <3
    Forever Rest In Peace, my love!
    9/27/95 – 9/29/12

  104. Susie said on October 7, 2013 at 1:05 am ... #

    My brother passed from cancer 10/2/13 and I played Elvis’ version of “I did it my way”

    And now, the end is here
    And so I face the final curtain
    My friend, I’ll say it clear
    I’ll state my case, of which I’m certain
    I’ve lived a life that’s full
    I traveled each and ev’ry highway
    And more, much more than this, I did it my way

    Regrets, I’ve had a few
    But then again, too few to mention
    I did what I had to do and saw it through without exemption
    I planned each charted course, each careful step along the byway
    And more, much more than this, I did it my way

    Yes, there were times, I’m sure you knew
    When I bit off more than I could chew
    But through it all, when there was doubt
    I ate it up and spit it out
    I faced it all and I stood tall and did it my way

    I’ve loved, I’ve laughed and cried
    I’ve had my fill, my share of losing
    And now, as tears subside, I find it all so amusing
    To think I did all that
    And may I say, not in a shy way,
    “Oh, no, oh, no, not me, I did it my way”

    For what is a man, what has he got?
    If not himself, then he has naught
    To say the things he truly feels and not the words of one who kneels
    The record shows I took the blows and did it my way!

  105. Jack said on November 6, 2013 at 10:07 pm ... #

    My grandmother passed April 7, 2013. I was and still am devastated because she wanted me to do well in school and get into a good college. I was in 8th grade, I hoped she would make it until I graduated middle school. God bless all.

    I miss you Grandma, I really wish you were still here.
    :,-(
    I love you.
    XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO
    I’ll see you in Heaven…..

  106. Anonymous said on November 10, 2013 at 6:03 am ... #

    I lost my mum three weeks ago, she was my best friend, my rock, my soulmate, my everything…..i miss her so much and feels so surreal

    I like

    Fleetwood mac everywhere
    Jonny cash hurt
    David bowie sorrow….my mum sang it to me as a boy
    Eva cassody over the rainbow
    U2 one tree hill
    Bright eyes simon garfunkel

    Miss you mum xxxxxxxxxxxxx only 61 xxxxxxxxx

  107. Juliana said on December 11, 2013 at 12:54 am ... #

    I have to say thank you to everyone, I am 26 and just lost the love of my life, Brian. He was only 32, and but a month ago he was talking of marriage (and if you knew us, that isn’t something either of us thought of). He passed away on his way home oct 20, 2013. He was only a mile away from our house… I woke up thinking I had heard him opening the front door and head into the bathroom, and fell back asleep. Little did I know that I would be greated by the detective later when I woke. The worse thing is not being able to say goodbye.

    ‘Chelsea’ by The Dirty Heads is a song that was written for one of the members girlfriend who passed away and is a song/band that me and Brian loved.

    ‘The way his collar fell’ & ‘Shoulder to the wheel’ &
    ‘This is not an exit’ – all by Saves The Day
    There’s a few lyrics in ‘this is not an exit’ that goes
    “Despair could ravage you if you turn your head around
    to look down the path that’s lead you here, cause what can you change?
    You’re a vessel now floating down the waterways.
    You can take your rudder and aim your ship,
    just don’t bother with the things left in your wake.
    Just sail belly up to the clouds, the rocks scraping your back.
    To breathe in the air will be the only thing that you have
    and your love will be warm nights with pockets of moonlight
    spotlighting you as you drift, the actor in this play.
    And you walk across the stage, take a bow, hear the applause,
    and as the curtain falls, just know you did it all
    the best that you knew how and you can hear them cheering now.
    So let a smile out and show your teeth cause you know you lived it well.”

  108. Music said on December 31, 2013 at 11:25 pm ... #

    -Here Comes Goodbye, Rascal Flatts
    -Chasing Cars, Snow Patrol
    -Let Her Go, Passenger
    -Let It Go, Demi Lovato
    -I’ll Always Remember You, Miley Cyrus
    -Love That Lets Go, Miley Cyrus
    -I Miss You, Miley Cyrus

  109. Joe Hodson said on January 6, 2014 at 5:12 am ... #

    My girlfriend was shot and killed on the 9th of december 2013 at the age of 17. She was finishing up high school and I was nearing finals week. I woke up to my parents in my dorm room to told me that she was gone, I asked where to? to live with her dad in florida, and they said “No she was shot late last night in the chest and was killed almost instantly. She loved the song

    (if I die young by the band perri)

    I planned most of her funeral and even learned how to hem satin… I know, sorta lame… even bought 2 bags of rose petals. She looks so beautiful and I cried without regret in a room of 1000 people, I picked out her casket and everything. Till this day not a second goes by that I’m not fighting to keep myself healthy… I currently can’t listen to this song without breaking down but believe me, breaking down is a natural part of a devastating loss. I believe its the second verse that gets me but It could be third. I hope this gets you into a point of acceptance and just remember that our tears shouldn’t for our loved ones because they are in the best place imaginable and I truly believe that. Be sad because you won’t see them for awhile. Ask for forgiveness live a moral life give yourself to god and be excited for the eternity you will have when this cruel life comes to an end.

  110. Phoebe said on January 11, 2014 at 6:28 pm ... #

    I’ve gotta say, I’ve looked on a lot of websites and I can’t believe that “Things My Father Said” -Black Stone Cherry hasn’t been mentioned yet, its a good song for when you loose a family member (in my case my Grandma from lung cancer) just ignore the father part and its perfect
    “Somewhere there’s a star that’s shining
    So bright that I can see you smile
    And all that I need is one last chance
    Just to see you say goodbye”

  111. Ellie said on February 4, 2014 at 3:05 pm ... #

    I’m was 17 on the 27th December and my Dad suddenly passed away one night in October after my Grandad died in January last year. With no lead up to my Dad’s death, we had no idea what to choose for funeral songs and at the time, it feels like one of the biggest issues as you know there is no way to change it. In the end we went for:

    David Gray: Sail Away

    and one that always reminds me of him

    Dido: White Flag. Along with some hymns for the church service.

    Since then however, I am not normally religious although I have found much comfort in:

    Heaven’s Now My Home,

    Don’t Cry For Me,

    Save A Place For Me and,

    The Script: If You Could See Me Now.

    I hope this helps some people who like me, struggle with words so music really helps.

  112. Iris said on February 9, 2014 at 7:00 am ... #

    “With You In Your Dreams” by Hanson

    If I’m gone when you wake up
    Please don’t cry
    And if I’m gone when you wake up
    It’s not goodbye
    Don’t look back at this time as a time
    Of heartbreak and distress
    Remember me, remember me
    ‘Cause I’ll be with you in your dreams
    Oh I’ll be with you, oh oh

    But If I’m gone when you wake up
    Please don’t cry
    And if I’m gone when you wake up
    Don’t ask why
    Don’t look back at this time
    As a time of heartbreak and distress
    Remember me, remember me
    ‘Cause I’ll be with you in your dreams

    Oh oh

    Don’t cry, I’m with you
    Don’t cry, I’m by your side
    Don’t cry, I’m with you
    Don’t cry, I’m by your side

    And though my flesh is gone, whoa
    I’ll still be with you at all times
    And although my body’s gone, oh
    I’ll be there to comfort you at all times

    Oh oh

    But If I’m gone when you wake up
    Please don’t cry
    And if I’m gone when you wake up
    Don’t ask why
    Don’t look back at this time
    As a time of heartbreak and distress
    Remember me, remember me
    ‘Cause I’ll be with you
    I’ll be with you in your dreams

    Oh, I’ll be with you
    Oh
    I’ll be with you in your dreams
    I’ll be with you
    I’ll be with you

    I don’t want you to cry and weep, oh
    I want you to go on living your life
    I’m not sleeping an endless sleep, oh
    ‘Cause in your heart
    You have all of our good times
    Oh, all of our good times
    Oh oh you have

    And if I’m gone when you wake up
    Don’t ask why
    Don’t look back at this time
    As a time of heartbreak and distress
    Remember me, remember me
    ‘Cause I’ll be with you in your dreams

    Oh
    I’ll be with you in your dreams
    I’ll be with you
    Oh
    I’ll be with you
    I’ll be with you in your dreams
    I’ll be with you in your dreams…

  113. Melissa said on February 11, 2014 at 9:15 pm ... #

    Shine On You Crazy Diamond & Wish You Were Here~Pink Floyd
    Time~The Alan Parson’s Project
    I’ll Follow You Into The Dark ~Death Cab For Cutie
    Rose Tattoo ~Dropkick Murphys
    Everything I Own ~Bread
    Would ~Alice In Chains
    Then She Did ~Jane’s Addiction
    Brother ~Blood For Blood (My brother died in Sept. 2013; this song reminds me of us.)
    If I Ever Leave This World Alive-

  114. Savannah said on February 19, 2014 at 3:18 am ... #

    My playlist. Most helped me alot. The song “In The Arms Of An Angle” Was played at my dads funeral. I was 5 and a half. It gets be crying so hard…. I also like “You Can Let Go Now Daddy”.That one hits hard too /.\ Its so sad. My dad died from a liver desease and it was really hard for me. Still is. It never gets better, you just learn to deal with it.
    ~With Arms Wide Open-Creed
    ~My Immortal-Evanesence
    ~Bring Me To Life-Evanesence
    ~With You In Your Dreams-Hanson
    ~If I Die Young-The Band Perry
    ~Without You-Breaking Benjamin
    ~Hero Of The Day-Metallica
    ~Dead Memories-Slipknot
    ~I miss you-Blink 182

  115. Kody said on March 18, 2014 at 1:03 am ... #

    My great grandma meker, my grandma jones, great grandpa swope,mother,and uncle all died recently and I listen to leelands song “tears from the saints”to cheer me up

  116. Cort Foster said on March 22, 2014 at 3:58 am ... #

    the song dear john by styx became a frequently played track when i lost my best friend and brother

  117. Danny said on March 25, 2014 at 1:31 am ... #

    I lost my grandfather William Stafford today.. I didn’t see many posts on here for people who have lost a grandfather that they were close to. The songs that are helping me most right now are:
    “Who You’d Be Today” by Kenny Chesney
    “I Drive Your Truck” by Lee Brice
    “If Heaven Wasn’t So Far Away” by Justin Moore
    & “When I Get Where I’m Going” by Brad Paisley and Dolly Parton

    R.I.P. to those we’ve lost.. L.I.P. to the one’s still here. Love.

  118. Ken Ramsey said on March 26, 2014 at 9:02 am ... #

    I am due to give a presentation on music and grieving to a grief ministry group. One song that came to my mind, from Carousel, is
    “You’ll never walk alone”

  119. Sarah said on March 27, 2014 at 4:56 pm ... #

    Someone’s Watching Over Me by Hillary Duff
    What Sarah Said: Death Cab for Cutie

  120. Julia Kilgore said on April 6, 2014 at 10:01 pm ... #

    Some lovely choices here. May I add…

    I know you by Heart by Eva Cassidy
    Kiss Goodbye by Little Big Town
    Just Breathe by Pearl Jam

  121. Julia Kilgore said on April 6, 2014 at 10:20 pm ... #

    And when you’ve gone a little farther with processing grief, try…

    I Find your Love by Beth Nielsen Chapman

  122. Lynnesa said on April 10, 2014 at 12:25 am ... #

    The songs that helped me with my grief of the loss of my husband are:

    Other side of the world – KT Tunstall
    The Light – Sara Barrielles
    Just Breathe- Pearl Jam
    The End – Peal Jam

  123. Viston said on April 24, 2014 at 10:53 am ... #

    A year ago today, I was in a bad car accident. I almost lost my life, I took a year off to heal. My family and friends helped me with it all. This past March I lost my grandmother, who raised me by herself for half my life. Three weeks later I lost my younger brother to a car accident, he was my best friend. This just happened last Friday. I just still can’t believe nor do I want to believe he is gone. Both of them are in a better place now watching over us. My advice to any of you who see this. Tomorrow isn’t promised, we all take so much for granted. Some times you just need to slow down, enjoy every chance we are given and to admire the people who mean so much to us.

    Safetysuit-These Times
    Coldplay-Fix You
    Jimmy Eat World-Hear You Me
    Incubus-I Wish You Were Here
    Linkin Park-Leave Out All The Rest
    Daughtry-Gone Too Soon
    Killswitch Engage-Always

    Just a few that are on repeat.

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