Over the past 4 years I have read avidly about grief and healing, resilience, spirituality and more. I needed to know how people coped; “How did people get over this pain?”, “How long was it going to last?” I now know it is not something you get over, this grieving state of being, it stays with us always, though becomes softer and different over time.
With my reading, I kept journals, which not only detailed my own personal journey through grief, but the amazing quotes, poems, writings and words of wisdom I came across, and still do. In my searching I have collected many and here I share just some with you.
Grief is a solitary journey. No one but you knows how great the hurt is. No one but you can know the gaping hole left in your life when someone you know has died. And no one but you can mourn the silence that was once filled with laughter and song. It is the nature of love and death to touch every person in a totally unique way ~ Unknown
Comfort comes from knowing that people have made the same journey. And solace comes from understanding how others have learned to sing again ~ Helen Steiner Rice
So long as we live, they too shall live and love for they are a part of us, as we remember them ~ Gates of Prayer
Make your own recovery the first priority in your life ~ Anonymous
Sometimes the purpose of a day is to merely feel our sadness, knowing that as we do, we allow whole layers of grief, like old skin cells to drop off us ~ Marianne Williamson
Tears soften the soul, clear the mind and open the heart ~ Unknown
You will survive! ~ Esdeer
These are the tests of the sea:
The third way is for courage,
The sixth wave is for perseverance,
The ninth wave if for surrender.
~ Lunaea Wetherstone
When we lose those we love,
You must understand
That it takes time
To learn to feel again –
Can touch the heart
Which is frozen with grief.
But there was no need to be ashamed of tears. For tears bore witness that a man had the greatest of courage, the courage to suffer ~ Victor Frankl
When the heart is cut or cracked or broken
Do not clutch it
Let the wound lie open
Let the wind from the good old sea
blow in to bathe the wound with salt
and let it sting.
Let a stray dog lick it
Let a bird fly in the hole and
sing a simple song
like a tiny bell and let it ring.
~ Michael Leunig
I measure every grief I meet
With analytical eyes;
I wonder if it weighs like mine,
Or has an easier size……
~ Emily Dickinson
I came to grieve, but found comfort here in this garden of memory.
Perhaps our spirits live in perfect peace in the wonder of each
flower and bird and tree ~ Nan Witcomb
And if I go, while you’re still here…..
Know that I live on,
Vibrating to a different measure
Behind a thin veil you cannot
You will not see me,
So you must have faith.
I wait for the time when
We can soar together again,
Both aware of each other.
Until then, live your life to its fullest
And when you need me,
Just whisper my name in your heart,
…….I will be there.
~ Emily Dickinson
Not I or anyone else can travel the road for you. You must travel it for yourself.
~ Walt Whitman
In my end is my beginning ~ Mary Queen of Scots
Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak,
Whispers in the overwrought heart and bids it break
~ Macbeth, William Shakespeare
Grief can’t be shared. Every one carries it alone, his own burden, his own way
~ Anne Morrow Lindbergh
From my heart, I know love ~ Esdeer
Angels will keep charge over you,……they shall bear you up
in their hands, lest you dash your foot against a stone
~ Psalm 91:11-12
It is not in the going down that we demonstrate resilience,
It is in the getting up again ~ Ingrid Poulson
In love, there is no separation ~ White Eagle
Walk bravely into the mystery of tomorrow ~ Unknown
And most of all, you were sure it would be impossible for you to function as a whole human being not buffeted by the waves of sorrow that swept over you in the early days of your tragedy. But you will. You will do all that and you will do more.
~ Harriet Schiff
Thanks to guest author Maureen Hunter for sharing these thoughts with us. To receive Maureen’s FREE inspirational guide “Opening the Door to Hope: Helping you Step through Grief” go to www.esdeer.com/hope