Comments on: The Beauty of Falling Apart http://www.hellogrief.org/the-beauty-of-falling-apart/ A place to learn and share about grief and loss Sat, 04 Feb 2012 03:20:44 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Domini Sumus http://www.hellogrief.org/the-beauty-of-falling-apart/comment-page-1/#comment-3046 Domini Sumus Mon, 11 Jul 2011 22:18:06 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=791#comment-3046 Thank you for this beautiful post. I recently lost my best friend and I was grateful to be in a culture where falling apart is widely accepted and expected. Here, it is the person who holds it together who is looked at strangely. Even a month later, I still fall apart once in a while and the grief is beautiful, despite the pain. http://dominisumus.blogspot.com/2011/06/mourning-with-abandon.html Thank you for this beautiful post. I recently lost my best friend and I was grateful to be in a culture where falling apart is widely accepted and expected. Here, it is the person who holds it together who is looked at strangely.

Even a month later, I still fall apart once in a while and the grief is beautiful, despite the pain.

http://dominisumus.blogspot.com/2011/06/mourning-with-abandon.html

]]> By: Sneha http://www.hellogrief.org/the-beauty-of-falling-apart/comment-page-1/#comment-2384 Sneha Mon, 08 Nov 2010 00:57:21 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=791#comment-2384 This is such a beautiful article. I've always prided myself on being strong. Crying only in private and dealing with everything by myself. I've never let anybody else other than my family see me cry. There were two exceptions though. The day my mom died and the funeral. The day my mom died, I was still numb. It set in for a moment and I got a bit hysterical but that gave into numbness. At the funeral though, I absolutely fell apart. I didn't stop crying throughout it and looking back, I find a strange beauty in it. It feels like a testament to my mom about how much I loved her that I was willing to break down like that in front of all those people. I wasn't worried about what other people were going to think. Or about trying to project a strong image. I missed my mom. And that was the simple raw truth. This is such a beautiful article. I’ve always prided myself on being strong. Crying only in private and dealing with everything by myself.
I’ve never let anybody else other than my family see me cry.

There were two exceptions though. The day my mom died and the funeral.

The day my mom died, I was still numb. It set in for a moment and I got a bit hysterical but that gave into numbness. At the funeral though, I absolutely fell apart. I didn’t stop crying throughout it and looking back, I find a strange beauty in it. It feels like a testament to my mom about how much I loved her that I was willing to break down like that in front of all those people. I wasn’t worried about what other people were going to think. Or about trying to project a strong image. I missed my mom. And that was the simple raw truth.

]]> By: Bill http://www.hellogrief.org/the-beauty-of-falling-apart/comment-page-1/#comment-1828 Bill Thu, 10 Jun 2010 13:31:46 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=791#comment-1828 When the time is right -as if I will know -I'll share this with a friend who called this morning --the memorial service for her husband is today and she fears falling apart. Truth is my wife and I may well be her Tony. -- Thanks as always for such heart felt sharing. When the time is right -as if I will know -I’ll share this with a friend who called this morning –the memorial service for her husband is today and she fears falling apart. Truth is my wife and I may well be her Tony. — Thanks as always for such heart felt sharing.

]]> By: Charlotte http://www.hellogrief.org/the-beauty-of-falling-apart/comment-page-1/#comment-1338 Charlotte Tue, 16 Mar 2010 03:12:38 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=791#comment-1338 Whether he knows it or not, Tony is like a real life "pay it forward." While he helped you realize that it was okay to publicly grieve for your Mom, you- Alisha- have been my Tony so many times. You have always been there when I am having a Dad moment. I am so very thankful there are people like you with your gift of meaningful words and people like Tony for his beautiful heart. Whether he knows it or not, Tony is like a real life “pay it forward.” While he helped you realize that it was okay to publicly grieve for your Mom, you- Alisha- have been my Tony so many times. You have always been there when I am having a Dad moment. I am so very thankful there are people like you with your gift of meaningful words and people like Tony for his beautiful heart.

]]> By: e http://www.hellogrief.org/the-beauty-of-falling-apart/comment-page-1/#comment-1283 e Mon, 15 Mar 2010 02:42:20 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=791#comment-1283 as the oldest child when my father died, i experienced countless others telling me that i needed to be strong for my family. i wish that i had had someone like tony to show me it was okay to "fall apart" - to feel what i needed to feel. what a gift. as the oldest child when my father died, i experienced countless others telling me that i needed to be strong for my family. i wish that i had had someone like tony to show me it was okay to “fall apart” – to feel what i needed to feel. what a gift.

]]> By: Bill http://www.hellogrief.org/the-beauty-of-falling-apart/comment-page-1/#comment-1118 Bill Fri, 12 Mar 2010 21:32:51 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=791#comment-1118 Spoken from the heart. Authentic sharing like yours touches the hearts and others and makes it OK to fall apart. Moving into the pain is healing. Pushing it down seldom works. Thanks! Spoken from the heart. Authentic sharing like yours touches the hearts and others and makes it OK to fall apart. Moving into the pain is healing. Pushing it down seldom works. Thanks!

]]> By: Teodora Garcia http://www.hellogrief.org/the-beauty-of-falling-apart/comment-page-1/#comment-1013 Teodora Garcia Thu, 11 Mar 2010 20:32:10 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=791#comment-1013 Thank you Alisha!!!!!!! Thank you Alisha!!!!!!!

]]> By: Marty Tousley, CNS-BC, FT, DCC http://www.hellogrief.org/the-beauty-of-falling-apart/comment-page-1/#comment-1012 Marty Tousley, CNS-BC, FT, DCC Thu, 11 Mar 2010 20:20:38 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=791#comment-1012 Oops! The link to my name in my previous comment is broken. My Grief Healing blog is here: http://griefhealingblog.blogspot.com/ Oops! The link to my name in my previous comment is broken. My Grief Healing blog is here: http://griefhealingblog.blogspot.com/

]]> By: Marty Tousley, CNS-BC, FT, DCC http://www.hellogrief.org/the-beauty-of-falling-apart/comment-page-1/#comment-1011 Marty Tousley, CNS-BC, FT, DCC Thu, 11 Mar 2010 20:16:01 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=791#comment-1011 Amen, Alisha! Thank you so much for this lovely post. Amen, Alisha! Thank you so much for this lovely post.

]]> By: myk http://www.hellogrief.org/the-beauty-of-falling-apart/comment-page-1/#comment-1007 myk Thu, 11 Mar 2010 19:39:03 +0000 http://www.hellogrief.org/?p=791#comment-1007 absolutely beautifully expressed. thank you. absolutely beautifully expressed. thank you.

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