Monthly Archives: March 2010

Negative Beliefs We Can Change

Guest Writer and psychotherapist, Dr. Mike Dow explores the three common negative beliefs that follow the untimely death of a parent. Dr. Dow explains that we have control of changing these beliefs, leaving us happier and more peaceful in our grief and healing.

Teens’ Talk About the Dreaded Question

Teens answer the question: Whenever I meet someone new and they ask me about my loved one, I never know what to say. Any suggestions?

Significant Emotional Experiences

Trauma, such as grief, is a horrific emotional experience—a negative multisensory overload that can affect us physically, mentally, and psychologically. But, Author Pete Shrock talks about how the affect of a negative Significant Emotional Experiences in the past, can be balanced out by a continued flow of positive and present experiences.

Two Big Questions: Why and How

When grieving the death of a loved one, two types of questions emerge: Why? and How? Author Bill Cushnie says while often there are not satisfactory answers to the Why? questions, the How? questions help us heal and move forward in our grief journeys.

When Someone You Love Loses Someone They Love

Author Alisha Krukowski talks about what “the right thing to do” is when someone you love loses someone they love.

Seven Years Later

Seven years after her Dad’s unexpected death, 18 year-old guest writer Samantha Halle talks about how grief is no longer all-consuming; instead, it’s the unexpected “little things” within which grief hides.

Faith and Spirituality in the Face of Loss

When someone we love dies, it is inevitable that questions of faith and spirituality arise. For some faith is challenged, for some it is dashed, for some it is a comfort, and for some it is a new exploration. Author Bill Cushnie suggests actions that are helpful in supporting the spiritual side of the grief journey.

Grieving the Difficult Relationship

“What I really wanted to say was…” Not all relationships are conflict-free, yet the unspoken rule of grief is “you don’t speak ill of the dead.” Author Jill Fitzgerald talks about grieving the difficult relationship. The one where we still had unfinished business, or our memories, and feelings toward the person who passed aren’t all pleasant.

Celebrate You More, Mourn You Less

Her father’s birthday always struck Author Elizabeth Sullivan as ironic – it was a day marking an age that he did not have a chance to reach. A day that was yet another reminder of an untimely death. But her perspective changed when Elizabeth decided to celebrate her Dad’s birthday by doing all the things he loved.

The Beauty of Falling Apart

Reflecting back on her mother’s memorial service, Alisha Krukowski talks about how often we try to “keep it together” for other people, or for ourselves, when all we really need to do is let go, and feel, and hurt, and crumble.