Refrigerator Notes

My mother was fond of sticking thoughtful notes on her refrigerator and she would change them from time to time. Many of them are stuck inside my head, and I still hear her voice quoting them although she has been dead for a few years now.

Today, I use them in my job, with grieving children, in a variety of ways. My favorite way: when leading a support group, I write them on a white board or easel pad, read them, and ask the kids to pick two or three that speak to them. We then memorize them together – one in each meeting.

You may want to make some of them part of your grief journey. The first one I always use at the first support group meeting, because it is so essential to the healing process. I trust that some will find their way into your head and heart.

The first duty of love is to listen.
-Paul Tilich

In the midst of winter, I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer.
-Albert Camus

There is a land of the living and a land of the dead and the bridge is love.
-Thornton Wilder

One person can make a difference and every person should try.
-John F. Kennedy

Just because it’s difficult, doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
-Warren Rudman

Heartbreaks soften the human spirit.
-Robert Veniga

A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.
-Walter Winchel

The world breaks everyone and afterwards many are stronger at the broken places.
-Ernest Hemingway

Pleasant words are like a honey comb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.
-Proverbs 16:24

One sees truly with the heart.
-St. Exuprey

The price of growing up is to be valued for what we gain, not for what we lose.
-C. S. Lewis

There are two ways to lead your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is.
-Albert Einstein

Please continue to add to this list via the comments section below.

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  1. Anonymous said on January 8, 2012 at 9:16 am ... #

    I’m not sure if it’s appropriate but the one I keep coming back to is Winston Churchill “if you’re going through he’ll, keep going”

  2. Stephanie said on January 8, 2012 at 10:34 am ... #

    Here’s one from a non-famous person (my dad, who passed away last year): If you think you’re lucky, then you are.

  3. Janet Macy said on January 8, 2012 at 12:05 pm ... #

    This wouldn’t work well with children, but when my 16 y/o son died I was working as a nurse in a management position.

    What I had to put on my bulletin board over my desk was “Be Kind. Everyone you meet is fighting a battle”. I’d have to look it up to see who said this.

    It helped me take the focus off of “poor me” and on to the people and patients that I worked with.

  4. Paul said on September 13, 2012 at 4:16 pm ... #

    It was Plato, Janet. My favorite quote.

  5. Lori Ann Patterson said on October 21, 2012 at 12:17 pm ... #

    Life’s a journey, not a destination,

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