Survive the Rocky, Enjoy the Smooth

Working with grieving children keeps me in touch with the resiliency of the human spirit. Yet, I know how hard it can be to make sense of life sometimes. I recently read an editorial in WebMD that was able to express this better than I ever have, and I want to share it with you.

After a long day at work Nan-Kristin Forte, WebMD editor, was confronted by her teenage daughter and friend with the statement: “I would never want to have children. Why bring kids into this world with so much stress, misery and sadness? And then you have to work so hard to support them!” Welcome home mom… Here’s what Nan said in response:

Stifling my urge to take this opportunity to teach my impressionable little ladies how to order top-shelf tequila, this is what came to my mind and I said it: ‘Because I wanted to share the turquoise blue of the Caribbean, the purple sky at the top of Ampersand Mountain in the Adirondacks, giggling until someone wets her pants, and greeting a smiling face across the room with a knowing wink.’

They were stumped so I continued. ‘You need to know that life is bliss and misery mixed. Perhaps we would never recognize one without the other. You will get your hearts broken and feel grief and loss many times in your lives. But you will also become confident and clear-minded. You’ll feel profound joy and love and laughter; you will feel awe and respect and humility. That is how you’ll know you are alive and why you will want to give yourself and others a chance to feel the same.’

I could not have said it better. Our path in life will have its rocky and smooth times, and with loving and caring family and friends, we will survive the rocky and enjoy the smooth.

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  1. Lucy said on April 9, 2010 at 2:14 pm ... #

    Thanks Bill…that was a truly profound article! Yet another reminder why we live and breathe!

  2. JarrodV said on October 18, 2010 at 10:52 pm ... #

    That was very heart felt. I’m curious I have a good idea for an article on here. But IDK how to post it. Do you have a link or can somebody tell me? I remember sometimes we used to go out to Alabama and spend vacation there. Everytime we go out there I cry missing my mom… I’m 13. I told her one time that she’d be able to see her grandkids… But she didn’t even get to see ME grow up.

  3. Suzanne Gene Courtney said on June 20, 2011 at 10:18 am ... #

    Hello. Having lived through and survived with understanding the death of my oldest son, I have managed to publish a book, Through the Eyes of a Dove, to help bereaved parents through the darkest days. I have also authored a children’s book to help children deal with loss and give them hope and joy. It is called, Ride to the Stars. Please check out my Author Domain:
    http://www.suzannegenecourtney. I have given many books to area funeral homes and hospices. My books are based on wonderful, spell-binding experiences received by our family from “the other side.” The messages were life-changing! Love, Suzanne Courtney

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